I want you to say a prayer for Jaden this morning. Who is Jayden you ask? He is the son of Sarah Capewell, a mother in Britain who's baby boy was born too early. In fact, had he been born just two days later, doctors would have given him the care he deserved. Instead, based on statistics and numbers, Sarah was told that Jayden's life was not worth saving. The doctors did not care his tiny heart was beating strong or that he was able to breathe on his own; it didn't matter, because a board somewhere who had never met Sarah or Jayden, decided that her baby was not worth saving, nor could the costs be justified in their public medical system. Jayden is a beautiful baby boy and his mother loved him so.
This was the first day I held her January 1, 1992, almost two months after her birth. The doctor told the nurses he thought I might be ready to jump off the roof-top if I didn't get to hold her, even just for a few minutes. I had seen so many other mothers come through the NICU at that time. Their babies were a little bigger, a little stronger-they could hold and rock their tiny, tiny babies....I could only stick my hand through a portal and touch her hand or foot. It was the most tortuous time in my life.
Kelsey was strong and oh so bullheaded.
I always knew she would live-even though they told me she likely wouldn't make it three days.
She finally went home the very day before she should have been born-March 3, 1992, weighing in at a hefty 4 pounds. She brought with her a warming light and a heart/breathing monitor-I told them no worries, she wouldn't need them-I had become thoroughly schooled and practiced at constantly monitoring her every everything. I took the tools and I used them, but I knew when she was struggling or faltering sooner than any monitor could. I kept her with me all the time.
All of that was almost 18 years ago. Kelsey will graduate high school this year. She has been the bane of my existence and the light of my life. She is bull-headed and strong willed and one of the two most beautiful young women I know. She is firm in her beliefs. She is absolute in her determination. She is my daughter and I can't imagine a life without her in it.
Experts on medical ethics advised doctors not to resuscitate babies born before 23 weeks in the womb, stating that it was not in the child's 'best interests'.
The guidelines said: 'If gestational age is certain and less than 23+0 (i.e at 22 weeks) it would be considered in the best interests of the baby, and standard practice, for resuscitation not to be carried out.'
Medical intervention would be given for a child born between 22 and 23 weeks only if the parents requested it and only after discussion about likely outcomes.
The rules were endorsed by the British Association of Perinatal Medicine and are
followed by NHS hospitals.